“People who,” please people are the unluckiest people in the world, to bastardize a lovely song by Barbara Streisand from about a million years ago (my red-haired high school sweetheart sang this for our senior prom and with whom I took people-pleasing to its fullest extent). I’m a recovering people pleaser. Whenever I do something […]
Feeling Guilty: Maybe Not
“Guilt is a teacher, love is the lesson.” Joan Borysenko, Ph.D. Guilt is not a feeling. Guilt is a judgement and a social/religious construct that has been drilled into our heads for so long that we actually think we “feel guilty” a good deal of the time. I ask my clients and workshop participants to […]