This is a most unique and comprehensive book, which is a culmination of thousands of hours of teaching, counseling, key noting clinical conferences on relationships, men’s issues, recovery, anger, regression, grief, and passivity. This small book is the “best of” 30 years. I would be honored and appreciative of any support you may provide. Please buy […]
Seeking the Truth
If you tell the truth, you have infinite power supporting you; but if not, you have infinite power against you. ~ Charles Gordon I’m a man who has told lies and lived lies and listened to the lies of other men. Lying is what I was taught to do. I was told that if it […]
Self-Esteem
“A man falling in his own esteem needs more ground under his feet; to stand again he may need the whole world for a foothold.” ~ Wendell Berry So many men try to live up to the expectations and visions of others (as our fathers did) by acquiring land and things, even by “collecting” people! […]
Returning the Earth
“We have conquered the environment, and in our obsession for control, we no longer allow the environment to live in us.” ~ Valerie Andrews Humankind has “tamed” the wilderness, bought and sold land for profit and loss. For too long we have mortgaged the earth and bankrupted its resources, pouring fumes into the skies and […]
Centering
For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all tasks, and the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation. ~ Rainer Maria Rilke As men we were often taught that the center of our universe is work, that we are […]
A Quiet Strength
“A thoughtful book like this encourages contemplation, rather than hyperactivity, and, oddly, we need good words in order to find fruitful silence.” ~ Thomas Moore – Care of the Soul Who will mentor, teach, and touch the souls of the boys who have been bullied, bloodied and beaten literally or figuratively? Each day from now […]
“Why?” The Most Useless Question
Yesterday during an intensive session with a client, he said, “Why did she leave me? Why didn’t I see the red flags?” Today during a phone session with a man in his late 60s, he said, “I’ve always asked myself why did I get to come back from Vietnam and so many of my buddies […]
Designated Problem: Let’s Get Rid of the Label
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding about ourselves. C.G. Jung “Mend his life.” “You really need help.” “Fix her.” “If he would just get into therapy.” “If she would only stop drinking.” “We’d be all right then.” No, you wouldn’t be and neither would they. You see, one of […]
THE FLYING BOY LETTERS: Getting Back to Y’all 30 Years Later
These are excerpts from my forthcoming book. They encapsulate my work with clients, workshop participants and key-notes. Hope you find them helpful. Letter #7 Dear John, Sitting in the audience listening to you on that Saturday night at the International Men’s Conference in Austin, I was struck by your voiced desire to simultaneously honor what […]
The Flying Boy Letters: Getting Back to Y’all 30 Years Later
Letter 21 St. Louis, MO Dear John, I need to thank you for your book, “The Flying Boy.” I am in the midst of reading it for the second time. The first reading tore me to pieces and put me back together. I had to become consumed with intense pain before I was willing to […]